shame guilt Success Story You’ll Never Believe Lois Hollis, RN BSN REV, shifts our opinion on one of the most forbidden subjects, shame guilt. Depression, anxiety, 30 years of migraine headaches, and pain were Lois’ life until she learned the dangers of shameguilt (not shame guilt.) She shares her 15 years’ experience as a ShameGuilt Educator, Counselor, and Filmmaker to offer health and spiritual maturity. Lois entered the health field as a Nurse’s Aide at 12 and continues today at 78. As a trailblazer, she developed one of the first Kidney Hemodialysis centers in the USA. Today, she establishes shameguilt as an independent study. Lois’ film Out of Discord Into Harmony teaches us HOW to communicate your emotions and inner critic. “IM Good Film” makes shameguilt visible to illustrate its trickery and how to kick it out. She is the author of three books and podcasts. “Now is The Time,” a collection of her soul readings, helps us stop the negative shameguilt energy. In this episode, Lois Hollis reveals how to overcome shame guilt and move forward with your life after the military. loishollis.com

As a result, the shame guilt that has accumulated within us makes our negative emotions more and more intense and dangerous. Psychology has given the shame guilt accumulation different intense emotional names. The shame guilt energy has a cumulative property that often incites an unresolved trauma of the past to resurface unexpectedly. It accumulates within us and supplies the energy force needed to intensify an unexpected negative reaction. It will turn a simple dispute into a volatile negative reaction. The intensity of a negative reaction depends on the quantity of our repression: the greater the amount of repression, the greater the amount of energy available to intensify the negative state.  A small quantity of shame guilt repression will most likely keep us in a low intensity of hurtful feelings, whereas a large accumulation can trigger us into an explosive confrontation. The accumulation depends on the type of incident and the sensitivity of the person. We acquire more in a public event than in a private encounter. Continual abuse and the witnessing of a horrific crime can often seed a legacy of shame guilt, and any person with a sensitive nature will take on more shame guilt regardless of the encounter.   loishollis.com

Love is not artificial. It cannot be made. Love arises from truth and joy.Love rejuvenates. Love brings riches beyond your dreams.However, love will never respond to a lie of self. Life trapped with misunderstandings asks to be held within yourarms of grace. Your truth is the jewel that opens your burdens tosee that all matters upon a single tear of sunshine. Light is seen. Love flows out of your soul’s entrapment. Beauty abounds withyou because love walks by your side. Love is born upon the tenderness of grace.Perhaps, love is what we call God. loishollis.com

 Steve Jobs was the co-founder, Chairman and CEO of Apple Corporation and died in 2011, aged 56, after losing his battle with Pancreatic Cancer. He posted the following observation just prior to his death.The World’s best doctorsSteve Jobs died a billionaire ($10.2b) at age 56. This is his final essay: “I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In some others’ eyes, my life is the epitome of success. However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, my wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to. At this moment, lying on my bed and recalling my life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in have paled and become meaningless in the face of my death.You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone bear your sickness for you. Material things lost can be found or replaced. But there is one thing that can never be found when it’s lost – Life. Whichever stage in life you are in right now, with time, you will face the day when the curtain comes down.Treasure love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends. Treat yourself well and cherish others. As we grow older, and hopefully wiser, we realize that a $300 or a $30 watch both tell the same time. You will realize that your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world. Whether you fly first class or economy, if the plane goes down – you go down with it.Therefore, I hope you realize, when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brothers and sisters, who you chat with, laugh with, talk with, have sing songs with, talk about north-south-east-west or heaven and earth, that is true happiness! Don’t educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be happy So when they grow up they will know the value of things and not the price. Eat your food as your medicine, otherwise you have to eat medicine as your food.There is a big difference between a human being and being human. Only a few really understand it. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, you have to manage!The six best doctors in the world are sunlight, rest, exercise, diet, self-confidence and friends. Maintain them in all stages and enjoy a healthy life.

Let’s compare shame guilt to the tale of Sleeping Beauty. Instead of pricking our finger on a spinning wheel, we get pierced by an abusive incident. The shame guilt poison from the abuse enters us and changes our positive emotions and thoughts to negative ones. Our compassion turns to depression, our passion turns to anger, etc. We unknowingly enter a hypnotic trance of unworthiness and fear. Sleeping Beauty, our logical mind goes to sleep, and the shame guilt controls us.   We awaken to our worthiness when we discover our healthy self, who is the Prince Charming of this tale. Prince Charming, our healthy self, accepts our negative emotions and our unworthiness with his kiss of love. Prince Charming’s loving acceptance awakens us to our own love and beauty. We remove the shame guilt and together come out of the darkness of unworthiness and sadness. Prince Charming, our healthy self, reminded us that we are good and lovable.   We live happier ever after, and so do our emotions. It is highly unlikely that a single abusive event could place us into a hypnotic trance. Nevertheless, this tale will help us understand the destructive power of shame guilt and how their hypnotic power controls us.